A grounded and safe place for you to FULLY FEEL your emotions, maybe for the first time.
Hello Brother,
You’ve felt disempowered. You’ve felt unsupported. You’ve silenced your voice and suppressed your truth to keep the peace. You’ve carried shame for having feelings. You’ve felt unsafe to express yourself fully without being afraid of being harshly judged. You are having constant arguments with yourself in your mind, but are unable to express them. Regardless of your religious, cultural, geographical or societal background, you’ve grown up hearing toxic stereotypes that shut you down little by little.
You wanted to cry because you were hurt, but were told “you are weak” or to “stop acting like a girl.”
You were scared, but instead of being given love, you were told “you need to man up.”
You broke something playing a game, and were told, “boys cause trouble” or “boys will be boys.”
You wanted to be a kid, but were told that after dad, “you are the man of the house.”
You saw your mom being a house wife, while your dad “handled the business of money.”
You question the teachings of your religion to understand better, only to be abused and told “its just how it is”.
You want to follow your dream, but are told that “you have to take over the family business”, or maybe “you need to study to be either a doctor, lawyer or engineer”.
You only know how to express anger, frustration or rage, the only emotions deemed as acceptable for men to express.
You are forbidden from marrying someone you loved because they belong to a different religion or caste.
You feel stuck between your wife and your mother, like a rope in a game of tug of war.
You feel obligated to stay close to your parents and take care of them, sacrificing your own dreams.
You’re feeling like you’re in survival mode, not realizing that you are experiencing nervous system dysregulation.
You’ve let the reflections of family and society define you and your worth, in an attempt to control you and you acted from such identities. You let others walk all over you. Even when something felt off, you never questioned it because you were never allowed to trust your intuition or express your emotions. So you accepted what was. That’s what felt safe.
But now you know that something doesn’t feel right, it doesn’t feel enough and there’s more to life than what you’ve been made to believe. You realize you have been stuck in quicksand, but you are awakening and seeking more.
This is for the man that is:
Recognizing that going out for drinks with friends no longer brings you joy.
Seeing that smoking weed doesn’t calm your mind and bring you peace, like you had once believed.
Tired of numbing yourself and feeling quick pleasure watching porn, and are looking for a true real fulfilling relationship.
Going through waves of happiness and anxiety, without any stability.
Experiencing a toxic relationship with his parents but feels obligated to stick around.
In a career dictated by his parents, but still feels a lack of purpose.
Ready to feel safe expressing himself in his relationships.
I know you are exhausted feeling you need to carry it all, hold it together, shut yourself down, and keep the peace. You need someone who understands you. I’ve been where you are. There are many experiences in my life that were meant to destroy me, that felt like I lived through hell and back, and start again from ground zero. Those experiences were meant to destroy me, but instead they became my origin story.
This my brother, can be yours.
This is your invitation to feel. It is your birthright to feel. I see you because I was you. Take a deep breath and let it go. You are safe. I am here to walk this journey with you.
Aloha! My name is Dharma.
Former people-pleaser, peace-keeper, and validation-seeker. Former drinker, smoker.
I left toxic family relationships, toxic friendships, toxic acquaintances, toxic places. I moved provinces, moved countries moved states. To a place where freedom and sovereignty reigns. This is what my soul was seeking.
From oppression to freedom. From control to sovereignty. Now finally, back home to myself.
I grew up in a very oppressive religion and family, where self worth was determined through following strict rules and meeting demands. I never felt good enough to be me. I was never good at school, so was constantly compared to my siblings. I was never really good at anything, and was deemed the black sheep of the family. I always carried a heavy cloud of being a failure. My entire life revolved around my parents, so I was accepted as me. Eventually, I stopped trying very hard to do so. I started to drink and smoke any chance I got to cope with the pain and trauma I had lived through and was living through, but didn’t know that’s what it was at the time. I was the oldest son so there was a lot of expectations placed on me, and being from a South Asian culture just added to that. I was exhausted, and suffering inside.
It wasn’t until I left home at 29 years old, after a lot of resistance and threats, that I had a dramatic shift in my way of being, and I realized the level of control that was weighing me down while I lived in their home. I had changes in my beliefs before this, but this is when the big shifts started to happen. I didn’t know that I was suffocating until I could actually breath, or feel real joy and inner peace.
I started healing, and as I did that, I made the choice to stop using alcohol and weed as a crutch. I no longer needed it and I started to feel more. I started to take care of my body, and connect with it everyday. I started to recognize how certain foods would make me feel and make changes accordingly. I then started to experience how I felt around different places, people, and interactions, started to trust that more and honor those feelings. I stopped chasing approval and love, and started to feel safe to be myself and love myself.
I can relate to your experience because I’ve walked this path myself. I know how it feels to go through life feeling numb and without a purpose. To feel so heavily weighed down by your environment, people and circumstances, that all your energy goes into surviving or just making it work. I also know, how I can guide you to choose differently for yourself with strength and devotion. It’s time to transform your life, and experience a rebirth. I can help you with that.
I offer you a grounded, supportive and safe place to fully express yourself, be vulnerable, talk about things you’ve felt you couldn’t talk about. A place where you are seen and heard.
I am here to help you see that what you are feeling is something you share with many other men, no matter where we live in the world. This is because of everything we are taught growing up, and everything that is expected of us. Each one of us is unique, and has dreams for our life deeply planted within our hearts by God and Jesus. What is right or wrong is for us to decide, not anyone else. As much as our education and family programs us otherwise, we are not here to please anyone that crosses our path.
No one has that power over you. Not your mom. Not your dad. Not your sibling. Not your spouse. Not your boss. NO ONE.
There are 2 ways to work with me.
One-on-One Men’s Life Coaching
1:1 Packages
*Custom packages available upon request.
In our one-on-one coaching, you will finally feel safe and free to courageously be you, without judgement. You will receive the guidance and tools you need to gain an understanding of your strength and finally feel real freedom to walk through life in a way which feels most authentic and true to you.
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30 minute safe space for you to share about yourself
Get to know each other to see if we are a good fit
See how I can best serve you
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60 minute chat via Signal call
A safe container to talk about any specific things you are experiencing, and how to best move through them
Follow-up email, outlining our call + actions you can start to do right away to help you align with your goals
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3-session, month long plan:
1 x 60 minute call via Signal, where I provide you with a safe space to share from your heart
2 x 30 minute follow-up calls via Signal*
Follow-up email after each call with outline and suggestions that can best support you to bring ease to your life
Email support up to 1x per week during business hours
*Details for follow-up sessions will be provided during your first session
***ALL appointments must be used within 30 days of first appointment***
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3-month long plan:
1 x 60 minute call via Signal, where I will hold a safe space for you to share what is on your heart, and steps to take to transform
6 x 30 minute follow-up calls via Signal, on a bi-weekly basis*
Follow-up email after each call with outline and suggestions you can start to use right away for ease and clarity
Email support up to 1x per week during business hours
Access to Empowered Men Group Coaching signal chat
*Details for follow-up sessions will be provided during your first session
***ALL appointments must be used within 90 days of first appointment***
Empowered Mens Group Coaching
In this group you will be inspired and motivated being around other men on the same healing journey of empowerment as you. When those around you are making positive and life-affirming changes in their life, it elevates you. This is a safe space of support, love, and brotherhood to connect with others.
Surround yourself with those who are ready to take a holistic approach to their healing and will encourage you to do the same! It will keep you accountable.
We cover a variety of topics on this healing journey. From childhood trauma, relationship issues, weed, alcohol, and porn addictions, numbing out with food to spiritual practices on how to stay grounded and clear, to working out and eating better.
Being part of a healing community helps us create the life we love. Sadly most men have a hard time even acknowledging that they need support let alone asking for it.
Some of the topics we discuss include:
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In this group we will be focusing on the mind, body, and soul. Our soul is the most important part of our life journey, which often goes overlooked in men’s group.
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Most boys are indoctrinated with toxic masculine stereotypes from and belief like “Boys don’t cry”, “Stop acting like a girl”, “Be a man” etc. These are just some of the things we hear beginning at the earliest stages of life, and in most cases, it begins at home with our parents. Discussing this within the group and on our calls, will provide you a sense of clarity that of where you are still allowing these to control your life even today.
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Many of us have come from households that have enforced some highly abusive religious, cultural or societal mantras. Some have been forced to follow a strict religion without question, wear specific clothes to follow a cultural background, speak one way or not speak at all etc. These are designed to take our sovereignty away from us and keep us stuck. We talk about this, so the heavy weight we carry on our shoulders unconsciously is lifted.
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Eating healthy, drinking enough water and working out/going for a walk regularly sound easy but these are the first things we stop doing when life gets a little stressful. Being a part of the group will help you stay accountable.
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Relationships are not always easy because we come into them with childhood wounding and trauma. Most often, so do our partners and that’s the only example we have growing up, thinking its normal. This makes communication with each other and compassion for one another difficult. Having a safe space to discuss your situation and talk it out with others will give you a broader perspective and help you navigate challenges easier.
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Addiction to porn has become very rampant amongst men specially in the past decade. It can have terrible effects in all parts of your life. Research has even shown the damaging effects of porn on your brain, resulting in the brain physically deteriorating. This is one of the ways our body tries to numb out.
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Alcohol and weed are highly addictive and can require a lot of support to leave. We go to them to numb out from our daily stresses. It starts with your willingness to take this first step, and ultimately, removing those stresses will open the door to also removing these from your life.
Join us to be part of an ongoing private group chat where you can come and share, ask questions, and receive support and guidance from me and other men who are on the journey of empowerment.
You will also get access to our bi-weekly members-only calls facilitated by me, where we cover important issues pertaining to you and other men in the group. It is a platform where you can also share your story in relation to the topic being discussed and receive answers and guidance on how to best support yourself.
WHAT OTHERS HAVE SHARED
“Thanks Dharma for putting this all together and for the first time for me at least I can talk to other guys about what I go through almost daily and the support is amazing-thank you guys.”
Mens Group Coaching Member
“Listening to the recording now from yesterday, so powerful and so much wisdom already in the first 50 minutes.”
Men’s Group Coaching Member
“This group is really helping me to open up a lot more and for the fist time I am able to talk about my father, how he is a narc and how he emotionally abused me.”
Mens Group Coaching Member
“…and I never thought I would have this support system that Dharma Bodhi made for all of us. I thank God that I have that…”
Men’s Group Coaching Member
“I greatly appreciate you having me. You have no idea how great it feels to actually have a conversation with grown men with the same views as you do and feel comfortable opening up and talking.”
Men’s Group Coaching Member
Contact Me
Please fill out the form to get in touch with me, and I will get back to you as soon as possible to schedule a complimentary session.
I look forward to working with you!